mood: :/
listening to: some sad song

okay i happened to read the previous 2 posts and decided to post.

rtol, a clique?

i think that's outside perception.

breaking up?

no, growing apart perhaps but you must take into consideration that some of us were always closer to others even before rtol's existence. another thing to note is that we are really a big group so you can't expect everyone to play happy families, and expect everyone to be close to one another on an equal level.

like love, friendship can't be forced or coerced. it comes naturally or maybe it's just the compatibility. i know that sometimes initiative,hard work and perserverance can make a friendship work but at the first place are both parties willingly, do you share the same ideals or perception of true friendship? is friendship controlled by physical circumstances. should time, space constraintsdrive a gap between friendships?

this is permisstic.but i dont't think rtol will be able to return to it's original form. wounds heal but scars don't disappear. this is not only about the forgivingfactor already, it's whether we still can reach a mutual understanding; to give without any shred of resentment and most importantly, the common want to repair this friendship.

issues to be settle?

i agree with sharon that we have to be more open and that's how friendships work.

but the part about being afraid, i differ in opinion.

it's afraid but not about quarreling but hurting yourself, your friend and your friendship. why do wives keep quiet sometimes when they realise their husbands are fooling around? not because they are frightened, it's because they treasure their marriage and want to protect it even if it means sacrificing their pride and hurting themselves more.

if anyone would want to share their troubles with anybody else, maybe you should just give that person or that group a hint. if they don't get it at times like me being blur, tell them or her straight in the face.

sometimes it's not that they don't care for you, instead they don't know whether they should bring up the topic at hand with the fear that they might unwittingly hurt you, especially if they got the impresson that you didn't want to talk about it.

i wrote this on current currants sometime ago. it seems to apply here too...

thinking of....

friendship..

what's friendship?

is it the number of years you spent together? the multitude of things you have done together? or even the number of squabbles you had?can friendship be measured?is there truly such a thing as best friend, good friend, friend, 'hello-goodbye' friend?

in my case, i can't really describe friendship to you, because i'm learning myself, falling down at times and steadying myself at others. i find myself sharing a different relationship with every single one of my friends. we talk about entirely unrelated things. some about the latest gossip, movies,books. the others about the current affairs, religion, thoughts. superficial or not, they are all important to me. i can't deny the fact that some friendships are indeed more cherished and precious to me, the ones that not only have good memories but bittersweet ones as well.

the astonishing thing i realised is, if you have true friends; time, distance, difference in opinion or thought will cease to matter. a true friend is not just a physical being to accompany you, to please your whims, to keep you from loneliness. if you have a true friend, you would not worry about not keeping in contact for a long time or forgetting each other, because deep down inside you both know that you are always there for each other. and the day you finally meet, despite the changes in your appearance and character, your friendship will still continue as before; as if there never was a parting.

thank you all my friends for teaching about the truth of friendship...